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Tara is a hermit
October 26, 2008, 9:38 pm
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She does not want to walk the dog in gale-like winds but would prefer to stay warm on the couch, next to candles, and read or watch TV.  I don’t understand it.

So we are spending Sunday staying in, cooking, writing, and hanging out.  

Tara eats sitting around naked.  It is like we live in a nudist colony.  Thank god the building next door remains vacant.  

Mostly she watches home births on YouTube while I clean the fish tank.


October 21, 2008, 11:35 pm
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ultrasoundTara and I had our one and only ultrasound today!  It was the full anatomical scan.  Tara is now at 22 weeks and our baby is a big 1lb 2 oz.

Here are some pics.  The Dr. said (s)he has an excellent spine and everything looks anatomically normal.  This was a big relief of course – Tara was nervous.   I was a little nervous too, partly because of the stories I have read such as in From Here to Paternity where the technicians raise flags even thought the margins of error on scans are large.  But as you can see, the scans are very detailed.  I wonder if they have become much more accurate.

As you can see, there is incredible detail, including individual bones in the fingers and toes.  I was looking to see if the baby had my dad’s feet!   And we also watched her heart beat from many different angles.  And the baby was sucking its thumb too.  The machine even renders in 3D which is truly remarkable.

At one point, a different operator came in.  I was worried she was going to show us the sex inadvertently but she was smart enough to ask us first.

It is hard to believe that we are well past the halfway mark.

Now I am getting impatient for the baby to come.  I want to have the baby in a sling.

Showers in Los Angeles
October 13, 2008, 12:28 pm
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Tara’s back is starting to hurt her.  And she has a bit of acid reflux and heartburn.  I have to give backrub every night.  I can’t image what it will be like in 4 months.  And the baby kicks non-stop.  She said it can be very shocking when suddenly she gets a kick.  You can even see it with the visible eye.  It is so strange having an independent entity residing inside another person’s body.

We are on the plane on our way to LA for our baby shower.   We are flying Virgin American which is like being in a cheesy discotheque in Marina De Rey in 1977.  It is all black and neon purple.  It is kinda like Jet Blue, meaning the plane is brand new.  But it is tight and it is packed.  We are reading Ina May Gaskin’s book called, well, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.  I’m on the section on sphincters.

John Haas is house-sitting for us and keeping Jasmine company.  It always makes me so sad to leave her.  She looks so forlorn when you pull out the suitcase.  She must know that Tara is pregnant because she has stopping jumping on her, but she still jumps on me when I get home.

The plane is packed with Hasidic folks on their way to LA carrying lulovs and esrogs.  It is like one big happy family.  Well maybe one big dysfunctional family.

It will be great to see everyone tomorrow and just relax.  My mom ordered cupcakes which I am already craving.  Jon Nieto is flying down from SF and I will see Peter Hammond, my doctoral adviser, for the first time in many years…

So we just got back last night from the weekend.  My mom organized an amazing shower.  My brother and his absolutely fabulous wife who is A No. 1, Ilana, and certainly not chopped liver, hosted at their house out in the Valley.  It was a gorgeous day, clear blue skys and in the 70s.   We spent the entire day visiting with friends and family outside by the pool.

Tara got to meet people in the family that she still does not know, including a number of my cousins.  It was strange to see how grown their kids were, and made me realize how many years have swept by since I have seen them.

The visit was a bit bitter-sweet.  It was great to see everyone but made me a bit sad to leave.  There is a lot about LA that I really dislike, from the aesthetic, to the poor urban planning to the car culture, but I do miss friends and family.  After the party Tara and I went to my friend Mike’s place where we hung out with him, his wife Michelle, and my friend Aaron and Neelee.  Their kids were running around naked and taking baths and having a slumber party – and it makes me sad that our baby is not going to be a part of that.  Still, it was nice to spend time with them.

October 8, 2008, 1:50 am
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We are watching the debates and Tara wants almond butter on apples with American cheese.  Sometimes she has some strange cravings.  And the baby is kicking like crazy.  I think she is cheering on Obama from the womb.  We are leaving for LA on Friday for our “Baby Shower.”  It will be great to see the whole family.

October 1, 2008, 10:52 am
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Tonight. like 15 minutes ago, I felt the baby kick.  I was not expecting it to be so strong.  It is so amazing.